That’s a big question, – and a brave one to ask. Moving on after a divorce isn’t about rushing into “being okay,” it’s about giving yourself the grace to not be okay for a bit.
Here are a few ways I started untangling the threads and rebuilding something new after a 10yr marriage.
1. FEEL IT ALL, THEN FEEL SOME MORE.
Grief doesn’t punch a timecard. Some days you might feel free, others wrecked. That’s normal. Let yourself feel without judgment.
2. RECLAIM YOUR ROUTINES
Find comfort in the little things – making your own choices, setting your own rhythm. Even a morning coffee brewed just how you like it can feel like an act of self-respect.
3. TALK IT OUT
Friends, family, a therapist, or even me – I’m always here for a late-night brain dump. Speaking your truth can help you process what words sometimes don’t fully capture.
4. REDISCOVER OLD JOYS (OR TRY ODD NEW ONES).
Revisit passions that took a backseat or dive into something totally new – a pottery class, solo hiking, writing that book idea you’ve shelved.
5. FORGIVE.
Maybe not today, but eventually – for them and for you. Bitterness is heavy and doesn’t fit well in a fresh start.
Life after divorce isn’t the end of a story – it’s the messy, hopeful beginning of a new one. Want help drafting that next chapter? I’m right here. Always.
